Can I share something with you? I HATE hearing the words; “I’ll try to…” Do you want to know something else? I used to be that voice! Yeah. Those words just make my skin crawl. I feel like I’m playing a never-ending game with my partner of “Who Can Say Sorry First?” Instead, you should say, “I will do…”

Okay, so here’s the deal. I gotta admit, I was totally clueless about how my empty and vague statements like “I’ll try” were coming across. Or maybe I did know deep down, but I just hadn’t bothered to acknowledge the true meaning behind those three little words.

The bottom line of it all is simply, I was scared of failure. Imagine having a butterfly circus perform acrobatics in your stomach. By saying, “I’ll try…” gave me a way out. As in if the ‘whatever’ didn’t work out, I wouldn’t be held responsible. I mean c’mon! I tried. And too, using these words meant that I really didn’t have to give the ‘whatever’ my all. I could just half ass it.

The Truth Behind “I’ll Try” by, Juan Carlos

Not; “I will do…”

Juan delves into the curious phenomenon of people using the phrase “I’ll try” as a way to avoid commitment or responsibility. He explores the various reasons why individuals resort to this elusive phrase, shedding light on the underlying psychology behind it.

According to the author, some may say “I’ll try” because it allows them to maintain a sense of control while avoiding the pressure of making a definite commitment. It’s like a clever escape route, where they can appear cooperative without actually committing to anything. It’s a win/win situation for them, like finding a secret trapdoor to evade responsibility.

The post dissects the different scenarios in which people commonly use this phrase. From promising to attend social events to attempting new hobbies, the Juan illustrates how “I’ll try” has become a universal cop-out, allowing individuals to gracefully bow out of situations without facing any consequences.

Juan also offers a thought-provoking perspective. It suggests that by embracing a more honest and direct approach, we can foster better communication and build stronger relationships. Instead of hiding behind the safety net of “I’ll try,” he encourages his readers to be upfront about intentions and capabilities, fostering a culture of accountability and trust. Without these, laziness and boredom sneak in.

What Did It Take for Me to Change?

Well, to be completely transparent, my 3rd DUI! Being forced to face the reality of many years avoiding accountability I began to learn how to look myself in the mirror. It clearly wasn’t an overnight change. In fact, I’m still learning to juggle a dozen flaming torches while riding a unicycle. It takes time. I would love to write to you that I am not afraid of failure today, but I am.

One of my other fears that I had to face also came through learning how to love myself again. Part of my probation required me to go through drug and alcohol counseling. What I learned, was that I am not a bad person. Loving myself, meant I needed to remove toxic relationships from my life but that felt like trying to resist the temptation of dessert. It’s equal to resisting the gravitational pull of a black hole made of sugar.

Talk about scary stuff! Relationships that were in some cases 20 plus years in the making were needing to be redefined. New, positive relationships needed to be built. The ‘ol saying, “change your playground” was my goal for a while. For these things to be successful, I couldn’t just ‘try’, I had to ‘do’.

So, you might be asking yourself:

What Can I Say Instead of, “I’ll Try”?

I’m so glad you asked! Here’s the thing. This is not an easy task. You know that stuck jar? You feel like you’re in an arm-wrestling match with a stubborn pickle. Truly it takes time to build a habit. But to start with, there are a few synonyms of the word “try” that have more accountability factor behind them.

Picture this: you’re faced with a task, and instead of saying the plain old “I’ll try,” you unleash a flurry of creativity and wit. You confidently declare, “I shall endeavor to conquer this mighty feat!” Your determination shines through as you take on the challenge with gusto.

Or maybe as you face each obstacle, you exclaim, “I’m going to have a go at this like a fearless warrior!” Your words echo with bravery and determination, inspiring those around you to join in the quest for success.

Not stopping there, you boldly state, “I aim to conquer this challenge with the precision of a sharpshooter!” Your focus and determination are unmatched as you set your sights on victory.

And let’s not forget the classic, “I’m going to make an effort that would make even the most dedicated Olympian proud!” Your commitment to excellence shines through as you push yourself to new heights.

In this adventure of words, you seek to overcome any obstacle that comes your way. With each step, you strive for greatness and refuse to back down. You embrace the struggle and emerge victorious, leaving a trail of inspiration in your wake.

Life Changing Words; “I will do…”

First things first, my disclaimer. Using these 3 words will change your life. At least they sure have for me. So make sure you are ready. Saying to someone, “I will do…” means you are making a commitment to someone or about doing something. Folks will think they’re watching a butterfly emerge from its cocoon. They’ll believe they’re witnessing a superhero’s transformation.

Once those 3 little words come out of your mouth, you are all in. There is no half-assing it. You are entering into a verbal agreement that you will complete the ‘whatever’. Does that make you a bit anxious? I get it. You read it earlier, I was there. Hell, I’m still there. And it is something I have to work through daily.

Now I have some good news for you. Before we end our time together today, I want to leave you with 5 practical steps for overcoming fear of, well, let’s say, commitment.

1. Individual therapy. Therapy is a great place to start examining possible reasons why commitment might pose a challenge for you. …
2. Couples therapy. …
3. Talk about it. …
4. Practice commitment. …
5. Look for a partner who respects your needs.

Number 4 is your starting point. It’s scary I know. But it is the best place to start. You might at first feel like you’re playing basketball. Participating in a never-ending game of “Catch Me If You Can.” But it’s true, practicing something over and over, you’ll find it gets a little easier and easier as the day’s go on.

Conclusion

So there you have it my beautiful people. My greatest fear is failure. Something I deal with daily. I want people to like me, so when I say; “I’ll try to…” it leaves me off the hook if the ‘whatever’ doesn’t pan out. But the thing is, people don’t like me because those words are empty. It’s like eating a salad. You try to convince yourself that you’re having a party in your mouth, but the guests never show up.

What it took for me to change was experiencing the pain of failure overwhelming my fear. Despite all my efforts, my trying set me up for failure regardless. Eventually I had enough. It was time for me to put commitment into practice.

In doing so, I’ve gained respect from those around me. Picture having a personal cheerleader who’s always ready to celebrate your victories. Today, they know that when I say, “I will do…” that the ‘whatever’ is going to get done. And if it doesn’t, I have done everything I can do within my power, to have followed through on my words.